Posts by Pams girl

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Prelude to a disfellowshipping

by rory-ks in

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i was 25 years a congregation member; ten years an elder; all told, up to 18 years an appointed man; a decade or so as a full-time minister; assembly speaker, with the pinnacle giving the public discourse at a district convention.. .

i stopped being an active member of the congregation in november 2010, but it had been brewing for several years, with the customary gradual drifting away - all the necessary mental gymnastics as my spiritual views changed and doubts set in; quitting the theocratic ministry school; ceasing to answer; sitting quietly off to the side.

i think the straw that broke the camels back was when family worship inevitably became family worship.

Pams girl

A belated welcome to you.

Your meeting is tomorrow.....and I wanted to wish you all the best, and look forward to reading about the outcome.

Paula x

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In love with a JW...

by CuriousUK in

apologies if this has been discussed before, or is in the wrong forum, but i could really do with some advice.

two years ago i met the love of my life; someone i regard as my soulmate.

he is an active jw and i am a practising church of england person.

Pams girl

A belated welcome to you.

Has he replied to your email yet? He needs to give his attention to your questions.....why hasnt he responded?

I really feel for you. You are clearly a very intelligent and articulate woman, and youve had so much good advice here. I hope it works out for you. You may be in for some heartbreak, but that will heal. He will ALWAYS put them first, and you deserve better.

Best wishes from sunny Wales.....Paula xxx

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New member

by Kool Jo in

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i've been lurking here since late last year...was very hesitant to join the forum because of fear that satan would control my pc.... .

i'm born in, but always had my little doubts about "the truth" since i was young, but went ahead and got baptized ect.... .

i stumbled upon this site while looking for a km and initially thought it was a jw forum, but after seeing some of the titles of various threads, i thought to myself "i'm on an apostate website".

Pams girl

Welcome to the board, glad you stumbled across us! Divine intervention?

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How Do You Approach New Friendships Now?

by Bubblegum Apotheosis in

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most of the website vistors and members have experience the wonderful conditional love (if not, why are you here?

), by the followers of the watchtower society.

feel the love "that no other organization or group of men and women have experienced" or was it elusive during your tour of the religion?

Pams girl

Since I stopped walking around thinking I was special, and would be saved........its opened my eyes up to the uniqueness of everyone I meet, and I appreciate people far more. Actually, an even bigger surprise, was that people in the world were actually happy! and enjoying life and its quirks.

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Does this reek of CULT to you?

by Blind_Of_Lies in

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http://cityroom.blogs.nytimes.com/2011/09/16/big-deal-jehovahs-witnesses-list-prime-properties/.

so this story was discussed earlier in another thread.

a line from the story has really been bugging me since reading it:.

Pams girl

Doesnt this demonstrate a total lack of faith?

Surely, harmaggeddon is right around the corner brothers!

With a mall, and spa........wow!

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My Wedding Anniversary

by TOTH in

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i am happy to announce that today marks 22 years of married bliss to the most beautiful girl on earth.

my lovely wife was always being harassed by the local overlords for wearing too much makeup, having her hair too wild, and for not being submissive to them.

when we began dating the overlords pressured me to get her to change.

Pams girl

Happy Anniversary both!

You are so clearly in love, thats wonderful

Have a great day together x

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I went to a 50th Birthday Party yesterday and...

by Broken Promises in

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...no heads were beheaded!.

no one got drunk (it was held in a public park where it's illegal to drink anyhow).

no one took drugs.

Pams girl

I love birthdays!

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Have you regained your Self Esteem after being " Used " by the WT society ?

by flipper in

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in this book on mind control cults and recovering from abusive relationships that my wife and i are reading titled , " take back your life " by janja lalich & madeleine tobias - it discusses in detail how damage we've received from cults or abusive relationships stays with us after we exit .

in the chapter " coping with emotions " it states some interesting things under the subheading " loss of self esteem ".. it states regarding after leaving a cult ( jw's, scientology, etc.

) on pg.

Pams girl

When I made the decision to fade away, I felt strong. However, within a few days, I felt like the rug had been pulled from under my feet. What did I have left? No real friends, nothing to focus on, I questioned my relationship with God, I felt lost........

I was depressed for a long time. My anxiety and panic attacks came back with a vengence. I worried constantly if I had made the right choice. I didnt realise how deeply entrenched my thinking had become............it took a long time to start thinking independently again. In fact, if it wasnt for my friends on JWN, I would probably still be mentally beating myself up on a daily basis.

My eyes are open now, and get so much strength and support here! In fact, if it wasnt for the Borg, I wouldnt have know any of you.....and I thank them for that! :)

Peace to you Mr & Mrs Flipper. So happy to know you xxx

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